Every Day Matters

Apr 07
Waldo is da bomb!

Waldo is da bomb!

Apr 07
-Katniss, The Hunger Games

-Katniss, The Hunger Games

Apr 06

Do Guys Really Believe in the Chase?

What does being “a chase” actually mean?

     It is him knowing that you have options and if he stopped showing up in the relationship, you wouldn’t whine and beg… you’d find another option (which would be readily available) and move on to greener pastures.

     You have value, he sees that and he knows that if he wants to keep you around, he needs to show up in the relationship and keep you happy.

     This is why, when a guy says, “It is what it is” in regards to a relationship he’s actually making a profoundly accurate statement.

     So regardless of whether or not you really like a guy or not, your “relationship” with him is what it is. There’s nowhere to get to and nothing to get.  You already have it in that moment… there’s no fantasy to bring to reality, no wishes and wants to come to fruition… it already is as it is.

     With all that said, what’s ultimately messing you up is that you’re conjuring images and fantasies in your mind of “what could be” with this guy that you really like instead of taking it at face value.  Those fantasies create performance anxiety because now you feel you could win or lose something when in fact… that’s a total illusion.

Source: http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/do-guys-love-the-chase/#sthash.3HSxnWiA.dpuf

Apr 04

quote Since 2006, 17% of couples have met by using an online dating site.

— Glamour youtube channel
Apr 04

quote 1 out of 3 women who meet a man online have sex on the first encounter…That is really high and surprising.

— Glamour youtube 
Apr 04

quote Dates that are set up by friends and family are twice as likely to result in relationships.

— Glamour youtube
Apr 04

quote 98% of text messages are read within 1 minute of being received.

— Glamour
Apr 04

quote Changing your relationship status is like marking your territory…

— Glamour
Apr 04

quote 44% of the adult American population is still single. 21.6% of Facebook users are “In a Relationship.”

— Glamour
Apr 04

quote Couples usually go on 6-8 dates before they are willing to enter an exclusive relationship.

— Taryn Southern, Glamour
Apr 04

quote Let the anticipation build…don’t be an eager beaver! Wait to respond to texts. Otherwise you will seem too “free” and “available,” like you’re just waiting by your phone.

— Taryn Southern, Glamour
Apr 04

6 Reasons to Stay Single

1. You can take the time and find the right man.

     One of our reasons for staying single is that you can afford to wait for your true soul mate to pop into the picture. You can take the time to casually wade through the barracuda-infested waters of the dating pool and set your hook for the prize catch.

     In other words, by holding out for Mr. Right (instead of Mr. Always Right), you can avoid the mistake of a lifetime and marry for love- and not out of desperation.

     It’s sad to say, but too many guys get hitched for the wrong reasons, like they’ve reached a certain age, all of their friends are getting married, and they haven’t been successful at dating and this woman is the first to show interest.

     This reason for staying single allows you to take your time playing the dating game, and increase your odds of beating the divorce statistics.

2. You can focus on your career.

     Our No. 2 reason for staying single is that you can enjoy the opportunity of building your career without draining the tons of energy a permanent relationship entails. You remain free to put in long hours, work on the weekends or do whatever else you have to do to be successful. This is especially true if you’re working in any kind of time-demanding field, such as medicine, law or entrepreneurship.

3. You can do what you want, when you want.

    When you’re single, the world is your oyster. You can pick up and go anywhere you want, do anything you want, any time you want. No one is in the background nagging at you to do chores, go shopping, or “grow up.”

     You’re absolutely free to hang out with your buddies, party until dawn and find plenty of time for your personal interests and hobbies. Best of all, you have the luxury of being all by yourself, if you feel like it.

4. You can build wealth.

     By staying single, you’re not legally or financially obligated to anyone but yourself. 

5. You can enjoy serenity.

Another reason for staying single is that being alone means peace and quiet. And, of course, no fights or breakups. As long as you keep her as a casual girlfriend and not a wife, if she gets too uppity you can simply walk away, free and clear.

6. You don’t have to compromise.

     Being single means you don’t have to constantly find a “middle ground” — meaning, doing what she wants to do (whether you like it or not). This includes being forced to see war movies or suffer antique car fairs.

The Single Life:      While marriage may provide certain benefits, when you choose to stay single, you’re keeping the door open for many more options and opportunities in your life. Your independence is something you should never surrender lightly, even if you think you’ve met the guy of your dreams.

Source: http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/134b_dating_advice.html

Apr 02
You’re tough!

You’re tough!

Apr 02
Be happy! Today is the day you will shine, you will improve, and you will be the best you that you want to be…today you can change everything!

Be happy! Today is the day you will shine, you will improve, and you will be the best you that you want to be…today you can change everything!

Mar 31

To Be the Perfect Chase

1. Let them initiate all texts and calls for the first 6 months. Be short and vague in your texts. Save the talking for in person so they wonder what you’re up to and look forward to seeing you.

2. Only text about seeing each other next. Don’t send cute ones unless he does first because it may seem like too much. Even if he acts cute, don’t give in.

3. Don’t tell them you like having a boyfriend or being in a relationship. Don’t mention other past boyfriends and why they did not work out. 

4. Don’t tell everything about yourself right away- be a mystery. Don’t try to know about him right away either, getting to know each other should be a natural process.

5. Don’t default a picture with your boyfriend until he has first!

6. Don’t compliment him unless he just complimented you. Don’t tell him you like spending time with him just to get a reaction out of him- it’s obvious. Don’t wonder how much he likes you, just go with the flow.

7. Don’t mention doing future things together or having a future together. Allow him to mention the future when he’s ready. Don’t mention trips together or try to initiate plans.

8. Only send him snap chats/Facebook articles/like anything on his Facebook if he does for you.

9. Don’t have any serious talks or ask where things are going or if you are in a relationship. Keep conversations light, fun, and playful.

10. Don’t try too hard to impress him. Wear sweatpants with him sometimes.

**Make sure he likes you more than you like him. Try to make him fall in love with you, not just have the comfort of being in a relationship with him. Try to get to know him as a person and see if he is a good fit for you before speeding things up right away because of insecurities. If it doesn’t seem like he’s trying hard enough to earn you, then dump him.