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Oct 16
Feeling ALIVE!!!!

Feeling ALIVE!!!!

Oct 16
Post-college sadness

Post-college sadness

Oct 16
oh-teen-posts:

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Oct 16
I miss college

I miss college

Oct 16
Holes!

Holes!

Oct 16
Pickle license plate!

Pickle license plate!

Oct 13
To text to that special someone…

To text to that special someone…

Oct 07
Frito-Lay joke

Frito-Lay joke

Oct 07
Funny hotel internet dial up…

Funny hotel internet dial up…

Oct 06
Too funny text for a girl that works at Frito-Lay

Too funny text for a girl that works at Frito-Lay

Sep 18

quote You’ll know when a relationship is right for you- it will enhance your life, not complicate it!

— Renee Pisano
Sep 07

quote Have you ever experienced reality being better than your dreams?

— Misha
Aug 24

Best and funniest vines

Aug 24

quote Dating “self-talk”: Keep your eye on the bigger picture when the burgeoning intimacy of a new relationship makes you anxious. Tell yourself little things (either mentally or on notes you leave around your house) to soothe yourself, such as, “Focus on whether you like him, not whether he likes you,” or “If it’s meant to be, she’ll call; if not, I’ll have more energy to look for someone else.”

— Seth Meyers & Katie Gilbert, http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201111/4-rules-surviving-dating-how-find-lasting-love
Aug 24

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

     ”Some might say I’m an impulsive person. I get an idea, and I act on it…When I want something, I go for it. And yet, I’ve learned that in dating, slow and steady wins the race.

     When it came to dating, I was always someone who preferred to jump two feet in without testing the water. I figured that if I liked someone, it must be a good idea to see him seven nights a week, right? And, if he learned all my little idiosyncrasies early on, it would be endearing, wouldn’t it? I was a full-fledged jumper. And where did it leave me? Often having what should have been a year-long relationship (from the initial meeting and the honeymoon phase to our first fight and breaking up) all within the span of a month or two.

     As I gained experience, I realized that when you like someone who likes you back, the anticipation of seeing each other again is often the best part of a new relationship. Luckily for me, knowingly or not, my partner, Jeremy, pushed us into the slow and steady routine. Over two years later, I can see that this method was the best way to go for us.

     The beginning of a relationship is exciting, and the temptation to jump in is always going to be there. Remember though, if this person is going to be around for a while, it’s not necessary to hit the accelerator when you can simply cruise at a steady speed until you’re ready to take it to the next level. There is no hard and fast rule, but seeing someone once or twice a week for the first month of a new relationship is probably a healthy choice. This way, you’ll have the anticipation and excitement of the next date, and you’ll have enough to talk about since you didn’t just see each other the night before! Use this time to get to know each other – discuss hobbies, things that make you tick, life ambitions, etc.

     The same philosophy goes for when to be intimate for the first time…if you catch my drift. It’s certainly tempting early on, but once you go down that path with someone, getting to know each other often takes a backseat to, well, the things you can do in the backseat. It takes time to get to know someone before you can properly determine if you even want to open yourself up to that kind of intimacy. If a friend asks you (after you’ve done the deed) what your date’s hobbies are, or what he or she does for a living, you’ll probably want to know the answers.

      The early parts of a relationship are often the most exciting, so relish in them and try not to hit the fast forward button too soon. Get to know each other over ice cream, go to a baseball game, check out a new band, try a new restaurant, and all the while, learn about each other. That way, when you’re ready to start seeing each other more often, you’ll be comfortable that this person is someone you’d truly like to spend time with beyond the initial infatuation. And with the right person, that infatuation will linger for a long time, if not forever, so there’s nothing to worry about.”

Source: Erika Ettin, http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/07/slow-and-steady-wins-the-race/